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Author:  RecoveryWarrior [ Thu Sep 01, 2016 6:50 am ]
Post subject:  How do you deal with people who fat shame?

I've struggled with bulimia since 2009. I'm constantly dealing with my spouses mother who loves fat shaming other women. She's overweight, so I don't understand why she thinks it's okay. I would never say some of the awful things she has said to me. Examples:

"I've noticed you've put on some weight" - While looking at me disgusted.
"If you're lucky your baby is taking his calories from your a**"
"Your baby looks BIG!" -Keep in mind he's in the womb and there's only an ultrasound?! What?!?

She's always putting other people down and talking about their weight. It bothers me but I have no backbone to stand up for myself and I end up getting reduced to tears and going back to binge/purge cycles.

I would love some advice on dealing with these types of people.
I'm truly hurt by the comments that are made towards me.

Author:  Spender [ Thu Sep 01, 2016 12:21 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you deal with people who fat shame?

That sounds really tough. I'm sorry your MIL is so hateful. I imagine she has a constant struggle with her own weight going on in her head, but that is no excuse for ever fat shaming anyone. Can you limit your contact with her? I would want to start dealing with the issue now because I wouldn't want my baby to grow up around those kinds of attitudes. It's hard to stand up to someone who is essentially a bully. Are you able to just walk away from her when she fat-shames, or is the trigger already pulled for you by then?

Another thing you could try is drowning her with facts. Have you had a chance to look at [url=http://webiteback.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=178&t=19207this[/url] thread, or http://webiteback.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=178&t=18634this one? Poke around a bit in that forum, and maybe you can find something helpful.

I am wondering if you could practice something when you are alone as a response to her fat-shaming? It would be reinforcement and validation for you, and if you become quite practiced, you may find that you are eventually able to say those words in front of her.

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