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PostPosted: Sat Mar 12, 2011 7:26 pm 
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This is AMAZING....definitely some useful tools here that I will be taking a closer look at! Thank you Lucy!!!

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Wow. Thanks for taking the time to write all that out lucy!! I think this will be helpful!

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My PDN has given me some of the chapters to see if I find it helpful- with looking towards buying it.

I've been avoidig it- unable to even make myself look at it. The fact it is aimed at bulimics messes with my head- the whole "they think your bulimic rather than anorexic because your fat and lack control" thing keeps going round and round in my head.

But finding this post, has made me determined to take a look at it, and give it a go :)


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PostPosted: Sun Mar 13, 2011 6:03 pm 
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This is great, thanks! I especially like the bit about Plan A...if your eating is totally chaotic. Thats me . Will go back and read it more carefully. :-?


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The book really is helpful m'love, i'm glad this has been inspiring! I'm giving the letter to the future a try out this evening, i think it'll be quite an eye opener..

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Wow, I don't know how I missed this before! These are awesome Lucy!!!!!

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I'm so glad you like it Emma! I'm going through some of the exercises with my care co-ordinator this week ^^

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Okay so..the following are from different books but i'm certain they'll be helpful to folks struggling on here right now :)

Recovery is...
- Freedom from shame/guilt, from obsessive thoughts, from the need to achieve
- Confidence
- Eating/food no longer an issue
- Balance; sometimes eating too much, sometimes too little, but not thrown back into eating disorder
- Being different
- Letting go/finding a new identity
- Being able to enjoy food as a pleasure
- Opportunity
- Wider perspective
- Having family
- Building up self esteem and acceptance
- Able to eat 'nice foods' without fear of losing control
- Dignity
- Restoring perspective
- Having no fear
- Relief
- A challenge
- Being able to see yourself as you really are
- Moving on
- More fun
- Not a substituted shackle; it is having no shackle
- Looking to the future
- Letting go of te illness
- Freedom from being trapped
- Acceptance of yourself
- Not being too hard on yourself
- Peace of mind
- Not being alone
- Accepting things you cannot change
- Letting go of the past
- Having new thoughts; not staying trapped or static
- Being able to give to yourself and as a result the best of yourself to others
- Admittance
- Being honest and true to yourself and others
- Handing over the uncontrollable to your higher power
- Change
- Being selfless
- Doing the right things
- Not taking things out on yourself when things go wrong
- Feeling you deserve recovery

Recovery Is Not..

- Dieting all the time
- Being chained to something else
- Just gaining weight
- Papering over the cracks
- Constant denial/keeping busy so you don't feel bad
- A magic wand (it isn't instant relief)
- Never having any problems ever again (it is about dealing with them in a more positive way)
- Denial
- Isolation
- Dishonesty
- Living in the past
- Dwelling on the past
- Ignoring your 'inner self'
- Revisiting previous habits
- Living a lie
- Harbouring bitterness
- Turning anger in on yourself
- Guilt
- Starvation
- Depending too much on others
- Losing responsibility
- Fear
- Restriction
- A 'hamster wheel' of activity

Normal Eating is Five Things..
- No food is forbidden. This means that all kinds of foods are enjoyed and eaten, admittadly some not as often as others

- Not being obsessive. There are no strict lists of foods, no is food weighed or counted. Whereas normal eating may mean trying to stick to guidelines such as eating five fruit or vegetables a day, this does not become obsessive, nor does it cause anxiety

- Sometimes eating too much, sometimes too little. Normal eating does not mean we count or calculate what we eat. It means we eat accordingly to our real appetite (not emotional appetite) everyday, and trust our body to work out the difference

- Not being chained to the scales. Normal eating does not mean weighing yourself every day, or being obsessed about what your weight is. Normal eating is about having instinctive (and roughly accurate) idea of where your weight is and adjusting your eating accordingly

- Not dieting. Normal eating is not about being on a constant diet. It might be about trying to eat healthily and following guidelines, but it has a freedom about it which inevitably means that on some days you will break the rules, but that is okay!

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Stages of Recovery..

1) Pre-contemplation: This is the stage before the person has even begun to think about changing. In their mind the behaviour has no problems associated with it and is entirely reasonable. They see no reason to want to change it in any way.

2) Contemplation: Moving into this stage, the person is begining to think about the pros and cons of their behaviour. This is a stage of many mixed feelings. On the one hand they see the benefits of carrying on with the behaviour, but on the other they can see potential problems with it.

3) Action: This stage begins when it is realized that the costs of a behaviour outweigh the benefits. A decision is therefore made to start to change.

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PostPosted: Wed Jul 06, 2011 11:35 pm 
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I like the idea that anyone can eat too much or too little sometimes, and that it's ok..
I know that doesn't give me to right to restrict or binge.
But it's so easy to feel like a failure when most dieticians recommend to be 100% in tune with your fullness and hunger cues and to never eat for emotional reasons.. I don't think anyone does that ALL THE TIME.


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PostPosted: Sat Aug 13, 2011 1:29 am 
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Wow, I've just finished reading all of that, thank you so much for putting in all that effort. That was a brilliant read, so so so helpful! Thanks :heart:

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PostPosted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 6:06 pm 
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PostPosted: Fri May 18, 2012 1:46 am 
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this information is fantastic, thank you so much for taking the time to post it. Im going to do each exercise, thank you

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PostPosted: Fri Jul 06, 2012 12:16 pm 
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I think I may be getting closer to that normal eating thing. After swimming really hard (I was playing a diving game with my bf and his brother and sister in law) I was really hungry all the next day. So I ate.

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PostPosted: Mon Mar 11, 2013 10:20 pm 
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Hmm, I have never read this thread before but there are certainly some good exercises described.

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