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PostPosted: Wed Jun 03, 2009 5:40 pm 
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Hi love muffins,

With the "earliest memory of ED" thread, I thought I would attach this video about children with anorexia at the Rhodes Farm.

Warning: it's pretty sad, and I don't know if it might trigger any bad memories for you about being in treatment. Anyhow, here's the link:

http://www.dailymotion.com/video/x6ghwi ... one_people

This is part one, and the other parts should be easy enough to find on the same website if you're interested.

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PostPosted: Wed Jun 03, 2009 6:01 pm 
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Sad and moving as it is... I can't stand all these documentaries about Rhodes bloody Farm! With Dee Dawson always saying they only take the most "severe" cases of eating disorders, by which she means the people whose WEIGHT is the most dangerously low... and the way they treat their patients like their eating disordered behaviours are just forms of misbehaving? In this one, the bit that bothers me the most is when she laughs at Natasha for thinking there are calories in water. Come on. She's supposed to be an expert, she should know by now that, however paranoid and unfounded, being afraid of calories in water happens to plenty of anorexic people.

*edit* And another thing: they always say they're the "only" treatment centre in the world specialising exclusively in "children" with anorexia. They don't seem to realise that this is only because most of the world wouldn't call "teenagers and the occasional preteen" children. Honestly, the way they talk about treating only the "worst" cases of childhood eating disorders, it sounds practically like they're bragging.

All the recent UK ED documentaries titled "The Truth About [Anorexia/Size Zero/Diets/The Internet/Chuck Norris]" and "I'm A [Child/Boy/Housewife/Alien] Anorexic" have been getting on my nerves... if you can't tell :( Sorry for ranting about it.


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PostPosted: Wed Jun 03, 2009 6:54 pm 
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That is so sad. I couldn't even watch the entire thing.

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I watched some of theyre clips before, I approve with Rook, its a shitload of rubbish what they talk along. I know several special hospital who treat children...

I met 2 anorexic children in personal so far, both 7/8 years. I was seldom so scared and sad in my life. They usually werent on my corridor but as the weekend came and thy didnt reached up their goal they came to us.
How can these small kids have so huge struggels? Sad.

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I couldn't watch this. It hits too damn close to home. It's so sad!
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Apology:

I'm sorry I posted the video. I know it can be painful to a lot of people and I didn't mean to bum anyone out at all.


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I have watched this before.

I got annoyed at the fact that the whole thing seemed to be about food and weight and didnt really talk about the whole mental side to it.
This is one of many documentaries including rhodes farm.
I disagree with some of the ways they approach recovery.
But thats just me...


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^ I'm not keen on the way Rhodes Farm approaches things either.

I get the impression that they don't offer the children therapy or help them think about the reasons behind their disorder or anything like that. It seems like they just feed the kids and send them home once they're weight-restored. Which is better than nothing I suppose, but it's unlikely to be all that helpful in the long term.

Amacat (sorry I don't know your real name) please don't need feel bad about posting the video. You posted something that you thought was interesting/relevant, there's nothing wrong with doing that.

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Lorelei wrote:
I get the impression that they don't offer the children therapy or help them think about the reasons behind their disorder or anything like that. It seems like they just feed the kids and send them home once they're weight-restored. Which is better than nothing I suppose, but it's unlikely to be all that helpful in the long term.


They do give them therapy, but you're right, they focus more on weight restoration. It would be fine if they were only a clinic that specialized in weight-restoring people who were physically at crisis point, and then sent them on to other forms of treatment, but they seem to feel that once they get the kids eating they've been cured. To an extent, however, their remarkable skill at getting people to break the habit of undereating is probably somewhat helpful.


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I don't want to kill the anti-rhodes farm. I was at the farm in fact twice on re-admission and I just want to say dont always believe what you see on the television.
I agree they focus on weight and food but they DO treat you like a human and let you have fun. I made some of my bestest friends there and it helped me so much. They set un realistic target weights which have to be met but its all for a good cause, it is not as strict as they make out on telly, however you have to follow rules, gain 1kg per week but its not as bad as they make out.


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I've seen several of the Rhodes Farm documentaries. I find the approach to be a bit.... different, to say the least. From watching them, it doesn't appear that they focus as much on the therapy aspect as you'd be expecting. What seriously worries me is the condescending attitudes that some of the staff seem to possess, and their high caloric, pushing all this food at you right upon admittance approach, which is not something usually deemed medically safe by other eating disorder professionals.

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To be perfectly honest, I wouldn't have liked to have gone to Rhodes Farm when I was a child, nor would I send my child their now.

It seems like all they focus on is food and weight gain which obviously is an issue but where's the physiological support? Where's the emotional support?

What scares me most is that these girls 'eat what their meant to' gain the weight they have to and then are 'released' back to normality, back to the same 'routines' back to isolation in some cases, back to their Eating disorders. It isn't a long term solution.

Makes me sad to see girls so young. Brings back a lot of memories as my eating disorder started at just 8 years old.

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I made a friend in IP. The girl moved to Rhodes Farm about two months ago, and her 'release date' is halfway through January.

She always goes on in her letters about how it's considered 'the best place in Europe'.

By who? She's also said "There's no way you CAN'T gain weight here!" and that they do very little therapy work. That sounds to me like it's very weight based.

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 Post subject: Re: "I'm a child anorexic"
PostPosted: Mon Jun 26, 2017 11:53 am 
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This was hard to watch – I don’t know if anybody will relate to, or even read this but I finally feel like I need to share my story. I was in Rhodes Farm when it was just starting up in 1992 and I am still dealing with the abuse that I suffered there. I was not anorexic but suffered anxiety following a childhood trauma and my eating/weight was effected. At the time it was just a force-feeding clinic, I think I saw a therapist one hour a week who miss-diagnosed me and I ended up being fed through a gastric tube. I was happy about the tube initially as I wanted to put on weight but I can only assume Dee was not trained properly in the management of this as I was over-fed and vomited frequently. This meant the tube would come out of my mouth and I would have to pull it out through my nose - I was 11 years old. There were no nurses helping me, I was on my own, one time I was even stood over and told-off as I was being sick. I don’t remember any compassion, warmth or love. I understand it must have been very frustrating for everyone involved but I was terrified, lonely and felt totally unheard. I was kept away from my family for the first time in my life, you had to earn weekly visits/phone calls so I rarely got these and I started running away and hurting myself in desperation, inevitably the anxiety got worse and worse. I was chained up, locked in my room at night, locked in a box room with no windows, tied to a chair at the table…the list goes on and it sounds crazy to see it written down!

This all happened 25 years ago, I am sure they wouldn’t dream of doing these things now and there are nurses there. I think everyone was doing what they thought best at the time, and I am only now learning how to process these traumatic memories. I am not angry with Dee, or my parents, but she was a figure of absolute horror for me for many years. They did get my weight up, and after I was sent home I have never had any further problems. I am now a mother of three but my experiences affected me in ways I am only now dealing with, with the help of a therapist. It feels good to get it off my chest!!


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 Post subject: Re: "I'm a child anorexic"
PostPosted: Fri Jul 07, 2017 9:01 pm 
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Hey K, I'm so sorry that that happened to you. What you describe sounds horrific and like the exact opposite of what someone needs to heal. I'm glad to hear you have a therapist who is helping you process what happened to you.

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